Let us talk

My mother is someone who enjoys learning and socializing; therefore, last night, I attended a Mental Health workshop because she invited me to one.  I think it is pretty safe to say that we are not each other's favourite person to socialize with although we socialize with each other a lot.  I accepted her invitation because I have rejected many of her invitations and it is a horrible feelings to say no to the woman who has given you life and maintained it since you were born.  She drives me crazy because she is observant yet not! Or she never understands or learn what she has observed about me and talking or explaining only lead to more questions.  I have accepted that is how she communicate, she asks but she may not be listening and even if she is, she will forget my answer.

  I digress.

Yesterday, the speaker prepared some slides.  One of them read: "Speak to someone. Get the help you need."

For myself, the help I got by speaking with  someone was no help at all but that was the help I needed.  It just depends on how long it takes someone to realize, the person who can help you the most is you.  A helping hand can only do so much.  Yes, it pains me to see you "suffer" but, seriously, I don't know how to pull you out of "misery".  What works for me may not work for you.

By speaking with someone, you will see how different people respond when you need help.  You will become more understanding of people's reaction. 

Spoiler alert!

For myself, I am no longer sad that no one knows how to help you and most even pushes you away.  That is normal.  However, I am sad that people tend to laugh at the person who needs help immediately after seeing such a person for the first time ever.  Making fun of someone or something you do not know how to handle is usually people's reaction when they are fearful of something.  That is one of the dramatic reacter's response.  Another common dramatic response is the concerning person response.  The concerning person will be someone claiming to be an expert and everyone will follow the leader.  The leader is always dramatic because ego is involved for sure whenever you are leading.

Turning back to my mother, I accepted her invitation because I am familiar with the topic.  The more familiar you are with something the heavier it is when you speak about it.  You don't ask questions lightly.  That is why I rarely ask questions.