I have sort of experienced dating two Northern boys in my life. Both were extremely shortlived and some may not even count my experience with them as dating.
I think I am attractive to boys from the North because I am Asian and you don't see much of me in the Northern land. I have the appearance of an Asian lady yet am somewhat whitewashed. I can communicate with them in their language of choice and I am cool!
They are appealing to me because their lifestyle appears to resemble the lives I see in movies prior to immigrating to Canada. Cottage by the lake, wilderness everywhere, and more. Basically, a life I can only dream about.
Anyways, bad timing with both of them. If they are from the North, they are BOUND to be busy during Christmas time (aka now).
The first Northern boy who took an interest in me scouted me for at least half a year. We sat together in class for half a year and, unbeknownst to me, he asked me out many times. Each time he asked me, I just thought maybe he was friendless which was definitely not the case. I also never thought he would be interested because in the movies they always ended up with a hot blond. You see, I commuted to University and he lived there (obviously he had to move out from the North to attend the University located at the downtown core in the centre of Canada). He received a "I need to go home" every single time he asked to hang out or eat or study or something after class. One day, he added me on MSN and that's when we started talking LOL. Ironic, isn't it? On our first date, I found out that he doesn't like to share food. I had a club sandwich and he had a burger. I left him 1/4 of my sandwich and he was already at his last bite. Yeah. It took us a long time to get together and when we finally were a "couple", he disappeared and returned to the North for Christmas. It is sort of sad because I finally have some free time and we hardly spend any time together prior to Christmas. The short amount of time we had together was very enjoyable because we talked a lot and we were very different. I guess both of us found each other very fascinating because our lives were so different. According to my last contact with him, he still thinks about me a lot and all his exes were jealous of me because I am so unforgettable.
The second Northern boy, I did not even meet him but he also likes to take things slow and I decided to just stop talking to him because he reminded me a lot of the first Northern boy. They like to use phrases like "I will make time for people important to me". Judging from how long it took the first boy to actually let me know of his intention, I had a feeling that this second one is going to be extremely slow and cautious as well. I appreciate slowness but if I never see you, I am never going to get to know you and I will never be important to you.
Why Christmas is a bad time to me? My family never really celebrated Christmas. On top of that, because immigrating to a new country is hard, we actually stopped carrying on a lot of family traditions that we used to do before coming to Canada. All of our relatives are nowhere near our place of residence. On top of that, according to Asian dramas I watched, Christmas time is the best time to spend romantic time with a love interest.
So to all you northerners out there, don't try to meet an Asian lady when Christmas is approaching, if Christmas and your Christmas traditions are that important to you. You might end up irritating the Asian lady trying to get to know you because you just don't understand the cultural difference. This blog entry is just a simple illustration of how drastically different the two of you may be.
Some of my non-existent readers might argue with me and say, "well if you spend some time to get to know each other you might realize you have a lot in common". To that, I say, "Bad timing! I will never know. What I do know is that Northerners like to keep themselves busy and will only make time when they feel like it".
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